This morning I had a long conversation with my best Friend. She was upset and we talked a long time about how she felt while being around certain people. We talked for over an hour and it motivated me to research the effects and Risks about a toxic home environment. I truly believe this is a FACT that is not even close to be actively addressed. Home Environment.
While researching for hours I found a lot of information on children and home environment , about how building Structures like Homes and Cities can make a difference in how people feel and behave, how to create a better work environment , but not much about your home environment.
Looking back at my own experience and the one from my friend it makes sense.
Who likes to admit that the one place, the place that should be your safe place is actually the one that is the unsafest. I could go at this in many ways but will focus on just a few situations and hopefully be able to help with some Ideas to move you towards a more positive direction.
Stress affects your health, You must speak up.!!!
Some of those Stressors can be:
- mental abuse (never being good enough)
- physical abuse
- emotional pressure
- your job (major workloads every day)
you may think that the Headache your keep getting is just a headache, the feeling tired or on the other hand the not able to sleep may be an illness, but they could be Stress symptoms , and those can affect your health, even though you might not realize it
First off you need to learn healthy ways to cope with your life stressors.
There is a great Article written by the Mayo Clinic Staff that i actually have printed out and then started “working” thru the points that i found are MY stress points .
It was pretty scary at first because I had all of them they had listed. I also bought a book to get me started : The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living on my journey to a healthier me and I hope it can help you as well.
How to focus on the positive.
Start your day with positive thoughts and affirmation.
When i wake up, before I even open my eyes, I say “thank you” to be waking up another day.
Before putting my feed on the floor, I determine that this day will be a good day.
Try it, and say:
” this is a great day!” say it with meaning and it will happen.
I also have small Cards all over the house and on me at all times, you can buy your first deck of Power thought cards here to get you started NOW. I have many Stacks that I have picked up over the Years and sometimes I give one to a person I feel needs some “sunshine” in their life.
Talk to yourself in a positive way
While in the shower, in front of the Mirror, your Car, tell yourself that you are having a great day, that the situation that irritated you earlier will not affect your positive thinking. Try to only say what you would like to hear from others. Compliment a colleague on the color of her Blouse or his new hairstyle. It is amazing how positive talk can be infectious.
Don’t believe that everything only comes in black and white. I have learned that life is so much more interesting in “grey”. For example, we all have been told all our lives that you need to “go” to work outside your home to make money, but ever since I have not been in an Office environment for a few weeks now the grey has become my Sunshine. I am happy with starting a new journey, I am excited to get up every morning and write about my life and Experience to help others. I have lost weight, been sleeping like a baby and have not had a headache (or in my case Migraine)
I am living every day to the fullest and with a smile on my face. Don’t let the grey scare you.
Make your home a bright place, light colors make your moods more likely feel happy than dark colors. Think how you feel when you walk into a Spa. The smells the colors and light music are putting you immediately into a calm and relaxed mood.
That is what your home should feel like.!
Start with a few changes, I just listed the ones that I have started with because I am not done yet with my transformation of my home environment.
- Get rid of the dark Drapes and replace them with light Colored ones,
- Change the color of your walls
- Have Candles and plants in every room.
- Make sure the air in your house is fresh, open windows or use all-natural scented candles
- Play your favorite Song(s). Music is an emotion regulator
- Surround yourself only with positive people, tell that neighbor that likes to come over and gossip to stay away.
- Take time for yourself, even if it is just a few moments while gazing out of the Window ( I learned how to totally shut down my brain and relax )
This is it for today.
I am looking forward to hearing what changes you will be doing or have done to make your Home environment more friendly.
Peace, Love, Happiness